For many years, the traditional Chinese culture made it quite difficult for Chinese Women to meet and date non-Chinese men. In fact, most Chinese people frowned upon interracial relationships and they even found it disgraceful for a Chinese girl to marry a man from a different race.
In spite of this, these beautiful, petite, loyal, and family oriented women are quite hard to resist and many westerners and Europeans cannot resist dating and even marrying Chinese girls.
With the advent of the Internet and many dating sites featuring Chinese Ladies, it is not hard to find yourself one.
However, what awaits you ahead should be of great concern. After finding a Chinese Woman, you need to date her appropriately and it is not going to be easy. Most western men have no clue as to how the Chinese culture makes it difficult to have a successful relationship with a Chinese lady. As such, you need to understand what it takes to date a Chinese girl successfully.
First, you should put aside all that knowledge you have about dating. All that general information will have no use when dating Chinese ladies. If you try to date a Chinese Woman according to your culture, you may end up judging her wrong. You will be sending out all the wrong vibes and sidelining her.
You are probably used to the usual western dating routine of taking your girl out to dinner or a movie and then trying to get a kiss at the end of your date. Well, this will not work in this case. Chinese Women appreciate subtlety and they want to get to know you well. Trying so hard to please them or getting too close too soon sends out negative alarms.
They end up feeling pressured and awkward. Try to plan a simple date. You can just meet up for coffee spontaneously. This way, she will be more relaxed and will enjoy your company without all that pressure.
You should also be aware that because Chinese girls are subtle, they will not be so obvious about their feelings. If she is attracted to you, she is not likely to kiss you incessantly or tell you so unashamedly like most western girls would. She will probably just remark about your well-behaved mannerism or even give you advice on how to relate to her family.
She may even seem concerned when you are going out in chilly weather. Remain alert for such cues because she is telling you that you are important to her and she wants more from you.
On a final note, if you are used to casual dating and have no plans of getting into a long time commitment, you need to tread carefully when dating Chinese women. Granted, you will find some girls who are not so keen on settling down especially in these modern times. However, most Chinese girls are looking for stability.
It is not only a matter of being financially stable but also in regards to your capacity to commit. If you have had many short-lived relationships, it will be best to remain mum about them. Honesty may be critical in relationships but more often than not, she will not find you a suitable mate if you tell her the truth. Give yourself the opportunity to try a long-term commitment. You might just find your soul mate in a Chinese Woman.
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